PonyTales

Hmm…I normally don’t like to complain or sound negative, especially in my blog. I want to have more happy post. But, I just really wanted to write about this as I have no one or no where to express my thoughts on this matter (at least, without hurting people).

(Warning: Young ladies might not like what I am going to say here)

I have the chance to deal with 2 young ladies (below 25 y.o.) at home and at work. One is my SIL at home who is still studying in college and another is my only colleague in my small dept. She is a fresh grad.

I do not remember or know whether I did behave like them when I was their age. But, I do recall once or twice that my parents got upset because I was ignorant or forgot to do something at home. Overall, I am not a person who ‘live in my own world’ and do not care much about others (especially how they feel). To make this easier to write, I will separately talk about the 2 subject above.

Home - my SIL
Okay, this is gonna be a longer one as we have stayed together for a longer time. I found that my SIL really ‘live in her own world’ sometimes. She is very much part of the household, but whether or not she care about the household stuff is another matter. Btw, she live with us for free and we provide most of the household necessities for her. Even make sure she has her meals when we could.

She rarely (very very rare) help out with household chores, except for her own territory (her room and her bathroom). When I was very sick due to my pregnancy, then only I see her trying to sweep OR mop the floor in the living room and kitchen. That also, after my hubby asked her to do so. She also don’t seem to know where to start sweeping and all I can say is she did a lousy job at cleaning (for a ladies’s standard). She can really live harmoniously with all the dust and dirt in the house, they really don’t bother her at all. She can also lock herself in her room more than 12 hours a day. Other than that, she is out with her friends.

Actually, I kinda know what kind of mentality this young lady has, something in between complacency and ignorance.
"No mood la, someone gonna do it!" or "Is it my job?!?"
Luckily she is smart enough not to say this out, else she gonna get it from me, hard.

She has a boyfriend from the same college that hubby and me do not really like because this fellow told a stupid lie to me before (either he thinks I am stupid or never work before). This boy like to appear in our apartment everytime hubby and me not at home. A couple of times, we bump into them and I personally saw him sleeping in my SIL room once (I was back early with MC that day). I really don’t dare to find out or want to know what both of them do at home, when we are not around. All these just leaves a very bad impression. I hope my SIL know what she is doing and not screw-up her life for him, it is not worth it at all as they are still very young. I have boyfriend too when I was her age, I always made it a point to tell my parents/brother that my boyfriend/friends are coming over so that they are not surprise to see some stranger in the house. My SIL don’t seem to do this or maybe she just simply don’t respect us enough to tell us. Probably, she just treat our home like any other student house.

I still remember the time my hubby told me on my MIL’s request for my SIL to continue to stay with us when we got married. I thot it won’t be so difficult, little did i know then…
I fully understand MIL’s request and concern for her daughters and as a SIL, I am concerned too. But I am in no position to reprimand her or correct her like a mother do. I bet she will hate me forever if I do that. Heck! I don’t think so she like me now anyway.

Work - My colleague
I realise that young ladies sometimes get real moody/sour face for no reason. And I thot, I am gonna be the one moody/sour face because my pregnancy is difficult and my hormone is going haywire. One moment, we can be chatting happily about work and the next she turn a sour face to me and asked me, "What is that!!? u r eating?" It is only mango, and I wonder what is bothering her. Now that I am preggy, I need to snack so that my stomach acid won’t act up. Heck! She is snacking all the time also and I never once ask her or tell her off like that.
Btw, I have also concluded that young ladies like to pull a sour face anytime they want, cause my SIL at home is also like that…especially early in the morning, really make me nauseated looking at their sour puss face!

Another thing is, young ladies also seem to like to ‘follow ppl’s behaviour’. I realised this at home and at work. If I need frequent break at work because I am running in-out toilet to puke/shee-shee, my colleague will also be like that. If I do my work in a certain way, she will also check out my documents and ask me lots of question about it. I am just wondering whether I am setting a bad example!?!

At home, if I leave some dishes at table/sink, my SIL will also leave hers waiting for auspicious time to wash it. If I leave the trash at the door so that I can gather all the rubbish and remember to throw it, my SIL will also leave her trash at the door hoping that someone will throw for her. I really don’t like all these cause it scares me and annoys me that ppl are monitoring my ways of doing things. I am not a good example.

Well, well…I get all these off my chest now, and life goes on…