What to Expect…
I am currently reading ‘What to Expect, The First Year’. This is the continuation series of the famous, ‘What to Expect, when you are expecting’ book - the book is even shown in the ‘Invasion’ sci-fi series when the pregnant mommy trapped in a car accident try to use the book to knock off the rear mirror. I would say it is a very good book as it try to outline as much details as possible, from labour, breastfeeding to baby care, postpartum care and etc. in very simple ways. The way an inexperience mother-to-be like me will be able to understand and accept 
Actually, after reading so much (books, magazine and parent’s blogs) that I enjoyed a lot, I feel like I am more ready than before for baby’s arrival. I found that I also can somehow see the benefits/applicability (or not!) of certain advises given to me, whether with good intention or simply just to make conversation. More importantly, I stay calm and don’t get too paranoid with things people say…especially when I have been feeling sick here and there throughout this pregnancy.
Recently, I found my hubby reading the book too! and I asked him whether it is good, whether he learn anything. He just said that he simply read it and skip some chapters - sounds more like he got nothing to read now, so this one will do too 
. He also said, "If I dunno anything, I will ask mommy (me)" - This words! Made my brain start thinking so much, as if they got zapped!
There are certain things that are still occupying my mind so much nowadays, I feel like I am not only carrying a heavy belly around, but also a heavy head 
You see! I realised quite a while ago that I really need all the help I can get as of now and also in the coming many months when baby finally landed. Don’t get me wrong, I love to be independent too and was once quite an independent person, but I always like to plan/prepare in advance the things that I can expect/imagine now so that when situation arises (especially unforseen ones), we can still somehow handle/made it thru.
Some of my thoughts/concerns…
- SIL - she will need to find way to go college herself, I guess we will not be able to fetch her for the 1st few weeks of baby’s arrival. Hubby need to be in service for baby, me and confinement lady to get the neccessities as and when it arises. So, I asked hubby to arrange for SIL#2 to give her the family car to use (since they will be away for a mth) - Psst! cannot help it but feel geram whether she ever thot abt this before (for her own sake, my goodness!) or she just simply lay all her burden on us and see what happens…blah!
- In-Laws - Expect my in-laws (at least 3 person) to come for visit & stay, but our little apartment is really too cramped even now, wut with baby and confinement lady around later. Confinement lady agree to cook for me and hubby, not sure whether she will cook for the rest. Ideal arrangement will be for my in-laws to stay elsewhere (hotel!) and only come and visit. I cannot start to imagine the mountain of laundry (with everyone around) - washing machine/dryer breaking down + space constraint + queue at toilet - I had enuf of congestion being an LRT commuter everyday already!!!
Hubby! If you are reading this, please help to think and communicate effectively to ur family on this. I am happy they are coming to visit, but I also don’t want to be a bad host. - Babysitting - Will need to hire a babysitter or a maid to be left somewhere with someone trusted. I need to estimate how much time I have to make ends meet for this - or we will have never-ending headache later. I understand that in the future we need time to pack baby to be sent somewhere for day care. So, SIL cannot expect us to give her a lift to college anymore in the future (daily or occassionally), we simply don’t have enough time - she gotta be independent somehow, and it’s NOW! - Hubby! I am serious - talk to her thou I know ur earlier arrangement is not like this. Trust me! My mommy instinct can see the future much more clearer and the message is - we cannot babysit her anymore! We got a real baby to babysit!
This is the 3 main agenda that plague my mind this morning during the whole LRT journey to work. Ironically, mostly involves my in-laws! OopSs! - If only I have a magic wand 
Geez! I never thot there are so much of ‘in-law invasion’ - even baby’s arrival felt this disturbance in the Force…here we go again…sigh…maybe these are some of the things post-partum depression are made of 
