Angry Little Child
Look at the title and you know I am talking about who - my daughter!
There are no other child that I know more other than Zoe. She has started to show us her true color lately and its fiery red when she is angry. I guess she inherited this from my side of the family…sigh… as I can see that Daddy’s side are quite mellow type.
Yesterday, she was in her moods again during dinner time when we are trying to go out for grocery shopping and dinner. We have initially just planned for a short trip of less than 2 hours as I am also not feeling well - another bout of food poisoning on Sat and lucky this time is not as bad - I am swearing off food from certain place now. Zoe is also having diarhoea again yesterday cause by her teething. She poo poo on the way to the car park and I decided to change her in the car and that got her super agitated. She was screaming murder when I put her down on the car seat and to top it off, we ran out of wet wipes. Daddy have to run took the leave upstairs to get it (not 1 or 2 floors but 18 floors) so it took a while. I manage to calm her down after the change and she was whiny a bit but after a while, she sat down quietly at her car seat.
I regret what I did later. I lean over to have a look at her and just merely adjusted her seat belt as I thot the position was quite uncomfy for her. With that, she screams murder again for the next 15 minutes until we have to turn back and head home. This is probably the first time she made us go back immediately cause it seems like she is gonna scream her head off if we do not. All this happen in less than half an hour and we get a really tired baby and stressed out Daddy and Mommy.
When Zoe is angry, it is really no joke. I also start to realise that she only wants her Daddy when she is dead angry. I can never pacify her at those moments even if I can perform magic or miracles. Maybe it is true that daughter are usually more attached to their father.
When Zoe went to sleep and it was all peaceful again, Daddy and I just sat down and had a brief chat on Zoe’s temper. Both of us agree that she have bad temper and we really run otu of ways to control that, especially when we are travelling in the car.
I try to read up on baby and toddler tantrums and found that we are not alone after all. There are many ways that parents have tried in those situation. Most importantly is the baby needs to be re-assured during those times that we still care and love her. I did just the opposite by scolding her and spanking her at the button lightly yesterday - which did not help at all. I have got a lot more to learn on this as I am also a fiery hot tempered person when I am not well. I read that it is advisable to leave the baby with someone else for a while, if we ourselves are unable to control our temper at the moment.
Most importantly now, I need to pray more, for Zoe and our family. I have been really slacking since Zoe arrive cause I have a lot of excuses of being super busy. I need God’s wisdom on how to be a good parent to Zoe. I need to feel connected to him again and do it his ways, rather than fumble and let my precious little one suffer from my ignorance and faults.
kesian nyerrrr…. anyway, my little Sophie also got a temper. Sometimes will ‘kek’ until face red red and then cry like we just chopped off her hand or somthing like that. But i guess i am slightly luckier as our little girl is a diva and does not dare to throw a tantrum in public. Only when she betul betul canot tahan only she will throw tantrum in public.
I saw in tv somewhere that kids will have their phase where they will have tantrum and the recommended solution is to let them run through the course. I know it’s hard but i hope you hang in there. For me when Sophie cry loud loud i just hug her tighter to assue her that I am there (also to make sur eshe dun have space to kick me too)
Oh ya, Merry Christmas.
Comment by duckie — December 25, 2007 @ 3:58 pm
Sigh….I think all kids cry and cry their head off sometimes.
I am also having trouble with boy boy on and off…when I scold him he just cries louder..like very kesian like that. But scared they think they can get away with it screaming like that!
It is tough…we indeed need God’s wisdom.
Comment by Ann — December 26, 2007 @ 1:44 am
Duckie - Thanks Duckie! Merry Christmas to you, your lovely wifey and Sophie too
Yea. I kept reminding myself…this is just..yet…another passing phase.
Ann Ann - Zoe show her hands gesture how I beat her hand, when Daddy asked her the other day. She beat beat her own palm and looked at me after that. I was speechless for a moment as she is barely 1 and she remembers that. Actually, I wanted her to remember more of the good things I did for her…not the beat beat part. I need to learn more how to be the good cop and let Daddy do more of the dirty job…hahaha!
Comment by ponytales — December 26, 2007 @ 2:19 am
sometimes they just want attention? Or try to bend it to see if u can play along :0
Comment by jazzmint — December 28, 2007 @ 4:54 pm