Number 2
Nowadays, this must be the most frequently asked questions I get from friends, colleagues and relatives, especially those who are already a parent.
"So…planning for no. 2 now?!"
"Don’t let the gap get too wide, u know!…u need to re-start all over and as u get older, its tiring!"
"Its about time…u know…"
"Zoe needs siblings…"
…even a confession from this young gorgeous lady in my office
"I am an only child…its very lonely! Please dun stop at 1…"
Seriously, I am not that ready to face another pregnancy. I can only wish and pray and hope that my pregnancy will be smooth. I have this phobia because my last pregnancy took a great toll on my body, my mind and its scary. I can still remember how it felt like to be pregnant (for me) and no, the child birth pain and joy did not took the memory away from me. I can remember quite well how it was like to be pregnant - with hyperemesis…
I remember asking God - why me!? (Its that bad!)
What’s my chances for a healthy pregnancy? If only God can tell me…
(Science and gynae could not tell or give me any assurance…)
I don’t know about others, but whenever I get a question of no.2 or I think about it - it relates directly to pregnancy sickness…very negative…I know…can’t help it!
Other factors to be considered:
Financial - just work harder…it’ll come or simply get by with what we have…
Child care - another tough part, good babysitter is hard to come by. Harder even when you are trying your utmost best to find a good one. Resign and stay at home, not really a wise move with the current economy and super inflation going on…
Night feeds - not that scary as compared to pregnancy…serious!
and some other factors…
A note to remind myself not to go into hyperdrive thinking about the above…
A child is a gift from God. What God has planned, He will see it thru and deliver as planned…so, let it be and let it come naturally. It’s not what you or others wanted or expected that counts. It’s a call for duty with unconditional love. If God sees it fit that you can be 2,3,4 x Mommy…you will be given the strength to go thru it…Amen!
AMEN….believe that God did not intend for us to go through a difficult childbirthing process.
So, don’t be fearful or anxious. Have to control your mind that everything will work out well. REALLY….
Comment by Ann — May 16, 2008 @ 4:24 am
Sometimes ah.. i don’t really understand why people would like to meddle in someone else’s life. Well, it’s my life! Whether or not I want to have a second baby kah… 100 babies kah.. what does it gotta do with those pat pohs?? why? They gonna pay money to feed is it? Think getting another person to come to this world is so easy?
Haha! Sorry ah.. I memang beh tahan those keh poh chis.
Comment by gina — May 18, 2008 @ 5:56 pm
Ann - Overcoming with God’s strenght is what I need first…
Gina - Bleh…but ppl sometimes use this topic to strike a conversation or simply just to share based on their experience…
I am still glad thou knowing 1-2 mothers who gone thru almost the same as me during pregnancy, and they understood
Comment by ponytales — May 20, 2008 @ 1:21 am